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Monday, October 7, 2013

Babywearing Myths

So many babywearing myths, so little time.  I could write pages debunking just one of these myths, and at some point I would like to do just that with each one, but for the sake of keeping this post manageable, I will try to be short and sweet and to the point.

Many myths persist around babywearing.  Some come from people that know nothing about babywearinmg, while many circulate among the babywearing community.  All of these myths hurt babywearing and scare off potential babywearers, so I think International Babywearing Week is the perfect time to shed some light on some of these misconceptions.  I will try to cover some of the common ones that many of us have heard and maybe even been guilty of repeating.

1. Babywearing will spoil your baby.
This one is something you can often hear from family and friends that think you are doing something wrong by wearing your baby.  They are worried that your child will always need to be held and carried forever!  The truth is that children that feel their needs are being met trust their parents more to meet their needs, so they actually end up more independent when they are old then babies that do not get their needs responded to in this way.  The whole concept of spoiling a baby by giving them too much love and affection is silly.  Do what feels right to you and your family.
For more info, read Spoiling by Dr. Sears


2. Carriers must fit knee to knee.
This is something I see all the time in the babywearing world.  This guideline was initially for people wrapping to make sure they created a supportive seat.  It has been incorrectly applied to buckle carrier (soft structured carriers) by well intending people trying to help people find more supportive carriers.  The problem with this guideline is that it is unnecessary and practically impossible to apply to buckle carriers.  Unlike wraps that require you to make a seat, buckle carriers have a seat that is structurally sound and safe without the need for this guideline.  The worst part is that this "rule" is often used to tell people their carrier is not good enough and they need a new one, but the window for a carrier actually fitting knee to knee is very short since we all know babies grow every time you blink!  There are many carriers that are still very supportive with toddlers even though they are no longer close to being knee to knee.  Your baby hasn't outgrown their carrier just because it no longer fits knee to knee and it isn't necessary to replace a carrier unless one or both of you are no longer comfortable in it.

3. Narrow seated baby carriers cause hip dysplasia.
This is a VERY controversial issue in the babywearing community and I am sure many people will not agree with me, but narrow seated carriers do not cause hip dysplasia.  First of all, if they did, we would be seeing a nation wide outbreak of babies with hip dysplasia since these are easily the most commonly used carrier in the US for some time now.  Now, this does not mean that the narrow seat in these carriers is ideal, it is much more comfortable and ergonomically ideal to wear a carrier with a wider seat.  But parents are being told that their carrier is dangerous and being made to feel they must stop using it immediately or risk damaging their baby.  These parents may completely stop babywearing because they can't afford a different carrier or spend the next several months not wearing so they can research what kind of carrier is best.  The worse thing is that in the rare case that a child does develop hip dysplasia, these parents are made to feel like they have caused it when in all likely hood, it was an undiagnosed issue that started long before their child was even born.  So yes, a narrow seated carrier could absolutely exacerbate an underlying condition, but it is very unlikely that a baby would spend enough time in one of these carriers to actually cause hip dysplasia.

For more information on this complex issue, read Healthy Hips - Busting Some Myths by Sheffield Sling Surgery

4. Forward facing out is bad for your baby.
Again, this is a very controversial issue.  I actually did a whole blog post on this called The Forward Facing Controversy.  Many people believe wearing baby in a carrier facing away from their parent is a black and white issue and you shouldn't do it ever.  Articles like this one by Boba point out some good reasons why wearing facing out is not ideal.  It is not the best ergonomic positions for either you or your baby and young babies can very easily get overstimulated in this position since they don't have the ability to look away or block stimuli other than to shut down and "fall asleep".  For this reason, I generally tell people not to wear facing out until their baby is older and to watch their baby for signs that they might be done and need to be turned around.  But I have seen new and exited babywearers being told that they are harming their baby by wearing them out and this extreme stance harms babywearing overall.  People carry their babies facing out int heir arms all the time and some babies even enjoy taking it all in!  So there is nothing wrong with letting your baby face out for short periods of time if your baby enjoys it.  It is likely going to be too uncomfortable for you to do it for long periods of time anyway.  Just watch your baby for signs that they are getting overstimulated; fussy, anxious, too excitable, squirmy, or even sleepy.  When they start showing any of these signs, turn them around and let them face you so they can choose if they want to look around or bury their face in your chest.

5. XYZ carrier is a bad carrier, you shouldn't use it.
This one makes me sad every time I see it.  It's usually a myth that comes from a well meaning experience babywearer towards someone that is new to babywearing.  There are definitely carriers out there that are not as comfortable or ergonomically ideal as others, but that doesn't make a carrier bad.  If a mom in your babywearing group posts a photo showing how excited she is to be wearing her sleeping baby, there is no reason to tell her how "horrible" her carrier is.  If she is comfortable and her baby is comfortable, then it works.  If she posts saying that her carrier hurts her back after 15 minutes, then by all means, tell her what brands you think are better.  But I have seen so many people get discourage because the baby carrier their friend loaned them or the one they got at their baby shower "isn't good enough".  Sometimes these people are able to get a "better" carrier, but sometimes they just walk away from babywearing, after all, they have a stroller that works perfectly fine.

6. Babywearing is dangerous.
With the rare exception of bag slings, which are dangerous and have been recalled, babywearing is NOT dangerous!  Unfortunately, this is a myth that gets perpetuated by both people that have no babywearing experience and babywearers alike.  People that don't understand the differences between styles believe all babywearing is dangerous because they lump bag slings in with babywearing in general.  But it is just as harmful to the babywearing community for active, experienced babywearers to paint such black and white lines on controversial issues, telling people that the are harming their baby.  They are sending a clear message that if you aren't doing it "right" then you are doing it "wrong" and could hurt your baby.  Of course, of someone is not safely using a carrier in the way a manufacture designed it to be used, then that is dangerous.  But using a narrow seated carrier should not be treated as a safety issue.

Be A Babywearing Myth Buster

Babywearing is about so much more than the carrier someone is using.  It's about the bond and benefits that babywearing provides to both the care giver and the baby.  Empowering new parents and nurturing their relationship with babywearing should be far more important to the babywearing community then making sure someone is using the most ideal carrier.  If they love babywearing, they will find a way to keep doing it when their old carrier gets less comfortable.  They will ask questions and learn more if they feel welcome, stick around and join in the conversation.  I would rather see a baby facing out in a narrow seated carrier than several feet out in front of their parents, facing out while being pushed in a stroller.  (NOT that I have an issue with strollers... I use them too!)   So I will never judge a parent for what they choose to wear their baby in and will honor them for making the choice to wear at all.

Check out our Golden Rule of Babywearing

Monday, May 27, 2013

The Forward Facing Controversy

There is a huge controversy over forward facing out while babywearing.  Having your baby facing away from you while babywearing is extremely taboo among much of the babywearing community.  Many babywearers believe this a horrible practice that should never be done, but like so many things in life, this issue is not as black and white as many believe.

One of the most famously linked articles against forward facing out is the Nine Reasons Not To Carry Your Baby Facing Out by Boba.  Wearing your baby facing out is not ideal for many reasons.  It is easy for very young babies to get overstimulated and they do not have the ability to look away from this stimulation while facing out.  It also is not very ergonomically ideal for the baby or the wearer.  It does not support baby's hips or spine very well and it changes your center of gravity by wearing something so far out in front of you.  Forward facing out is not something I personally like doing or recommending... but... I do not think forward facing out is as taboo as many believe.

Yes, a newborn with little to no head control and new to this world should not, in my opinion, be worn facing out.  It is just too hard to make sure baby's airway is open and that they are not overstimulated.  But at an older age, I do think some forward facing out can be okay.  And before you write me off or come after me with pitch forks, please hear me out.

Some babies just really like to be held facing out and if your arms are getting tired and you have a carrier that allows you to do a forward facing carry, then why wouldn't you use it and save your arms?  Most babies enjoying being held facing out to some degree and parents and caregivers hold babies like this all.the.time!  Babywearing is an extension of holding your baby.  It's a tool that allows you to keep your baby close and hold your baby when you otherwise might not be able to.  So I don't believe allowing your baby to face out while you wear them is a black and white issue, but I do think there is a huge gray area and you need to decide for yourself where you and your baby are at.

Theory VS Reality

In theory, wearing your baby facing in from the start can help your baby more easily accept being worn this way.  If your baby is content being worn facing in, there really is no reason to wear them face them out.  But some babies don't care if facing out is less than ideal, they insist on it anyway.

I don't like wearing my babies facing out... my first hated it, I never tried it with my second, but my third probably would have loved it.  She had excellent head control and by 8 weeks old, she had developed an habit of looking upside down to see what she was missing.  It looked awful and horrified many people while we were in public.  It was super embarrassing when people would run up to me at the grocery store and ask me if her head was okay.  I always reassured them that she was doing this herself, but they all just gave me the same disbelieving look, horrified of my apparent ignorance.  But I am her mother, I know she was alright.  She would literally fight me like crazy with those strong little neck muscles when I tried to get her to lift her head, pushing against my chest with little fists.  I am sure we made babywearing while facing in look far from ideal and facing out probably would have been much better for the PR of babywearing everywhere!

How's that for an arched back!  While facing in!

My baby grew out of the flip top head thing and was content to continue to being worn facing in, but some babies aren't as willing to let that go.  Though rare, some babies are just never content to be worn facing in, or will only do it when they are tired and ready to sleep.  But parents that have questions about facing out are often told it is "dangerous" and should never be done.  But theory doesn't always line up with reality and like most things in life, facing out is not as black and white as many believe.  There is room for facing out in certain situations, with certain babies, and for a certain amount of time.  There are things to be aware of when wearing facing out, reasons not to do it and things to watch for, but most people won't hear these and will either stop listening or stop babywearing, neither of which benefits anyone.

The Gray Area

One of the biggest things to consider is your baby's development and personality.  Young babies are easily overstimulated and overwhelmed when there is too much going on.  Being able to turn away from people and objects and bury their face in your chest or back is important for babies that can be easily overstimulated.  There is no magic age or time limit for which forward facing out is okay since all babies are different.  Some babies are just more introverted than others and will never like facing out.  Even if they don't get overstimulated while facing out, they may want to be able to escape when people come up to them or if there is suddenly a loud noise.  If your baby is content facing in, save yourself the trouble and just keep them that way!

Consider their age and size and physical development when deciding if you should wear them facing out.  Young babies with poor head control should be worn facing in to insure their head is properly supported at all times and their airway is open.  Older and bigger babies should be worn facing in to avoid the strain on your back caused by your center of gravity being unnaturally far forward.  If you or your baby has hip or spine issues, forward facing may or may not exacerbate this and you should consult your doctor.  But most babies will not be affected by the limited time they spend facing forward or we would have seen an epidemic of spinal issues caused by the abundance of forward facing carriers being used everyday.

If you decide to wear your little one facing out, make sure you stay tuned into your child's ques.  Watch them for signs of over stimulation.  If they begin to act fussy, squirming, moving head, zoning out, or "talking" more than usual, they may be done facing out.  You know your child best, so anything that seems unusual or a change in behavior usually indicates they have had enough sensory input.  This may be after 20 minutes, or maybe only 5.  It may also depend on where you are at and what is going on.  Your baby might like facing out at home, but get overwhelmed when shopping.

Also, don't let your baby sleep facing out.  First of all, getting sleepy and going to sleep can be a way for babies to cope with being overstimulated when they are unable to get away or decrease that stimulation.  Additionally, acing out does not offer adequate head support while a baby is sleeping.  So if your child is showing signs of getting tired or if it's close to nap time, face them towards you while babywearing.

I am not endorsing facing out while babywearing.  It is not something I personally encourage people to do since most babies get used to being worn facing in and can enjoy it when you walk around and give them things to look at.  High back carries can also allow babies to look around, but still give them the ability to control their stimulation by hiding their face if they choose.  But if your baby is as stubborn as my flip top head baby, it's okay, you CAN still wear them!  Your back might hurt and you might not wear them as often, but both of you can still enjoy babywearing.  Trust your gut and listen to your baby.  As always, be safe while babywearing.  Making sure you use your carrier properly is far more important than if your baby is facing in or out.


One more photo of the flip top baby... this time being held by daddy and not worn at all.


Here's another post about facing out that I found on the Beltway Babywearers blog, which is the Babywearing International chapter for the DC, MD, and VA area.

Thursday, August 30, 2012

The Co-op Controversy

Co-ops seem to be popping up everywhere and is quickly becoming a hot topic in the babywearing community.  Co-ops have always existed, but I think Facebook and other on-line communities are making them have a much wider audience and much greater impact.

Recently, in attempt to deal with an ongoing problem with unauthorized co-ops, BabyHawk made an announcement that they will no longer honor any product warranties for products that are not sold by an authorized retailer.   This has spurred quite a debate in the community between people that believe co-ops are harmless and the companies that are trying to prevent them.

This blog post is an attempt to shed some light on this issue, explaining what kind of co-ops these business are trying to protect their products against.  I will do my best to explain this as thoroughly and to the best of my understanding as I am able, but I am sure there are aspects I will miss or could explain better.  I will edit and add anything that is brought up that appears to be a valid piece that may have been overlooked.

What is a co-op?


Co-op is a short term for a "cooperative".
A cooperative is an autonomous association of persons who voluntarily cooperate for their mutual social, economic, and cultural benefit.
When we are talking about co-ops, we are referring to a large group of people that group buy a product in order to receive a price discount.

Two kinds of co-ops


For the purpose of this post, there are generally two kinds of co-ops you will find.  The first are co-ops sanctioned by the manufacturer of a product and the second are done by an "authorized" retailer or third party and are not legit.

Companies will often have co-ops to help them grow their business.  Co-ops are a great way for a small business to get their band and product to the public.  They are also sometimes used to clear out discontinued products, colors or prints.  Some companies do allow their retailers to run legit co-ops, but most make all their retailers sign contracts that agree not to do co-ops and to follow the approved pricing.  Legit co-ops can be a great way for people to get a discount by buying in bulk and can be a good thing for everyone.

Illegitimate co-ops, the ones that will will be talking about in this post, are when a retailer or other party sells the products at a greatly reduced price, far below retail cost.  This is done "under the table" without the companies consent and often directly in conflict with the wholesale agreement they signed.  They usually make only a fraction of a profit per item counting on a high volume of sales to bring in their profits.

These co-ops should not be confused with some of the small buying co-ops that people will put together in order to get a discount by buying in bulk.  This is a retailer or someone who applied as a retailer under fraudulent circumstances that is grossly abusing the status they have been granted by selling products at a significantly lower cost in order to turn a quick profit.

Just for clarification, small co-op groups run by people, not "retailers", that participate in group buying to get a discount is not the problem.  These types of co-ops are approved by a company when their business model includes co-ops.  It is not the same as a retailer not following their contract.  I would go into more detail, but that is what the remainder of this post is about.

So what is the problem?


Sales are great right?  Everyone loves a discount!  So what is the problem with getting something for a great price?  Well there are risks when you obtain something under fraudulent circumstances, whether you were aware of it being fraudulent or not.

One of the biggest things people need to be aware of, especially with certain larger brands like Ergo, is that knock off carriers are produced and sold through co-ops and rarely through legitimate stores.  This does not mean that a store couldn't buy knock off carriers or that all co-ops sell knock offs, but it is not likely that a legit business would take that kind of risk just to make a few extra dollars.  Companies have to protect and separate themselves from knock offs, especially since they are often made with inferior construction and materials.  The best way for them to do this is to not allow their products to be sold through co-ops and to only honor carriers purchased through an authorized retailer.

That is exactly the reason why many companies will not honor warranties for their products unless purchased by an authorized retailer.  But if it's not a knock off,  the product must come from an "authorized" retailer right?  Yes, technically the company authorized them and sold them the products.  But once the retailer breached their agreement, they are no longer "authorized" and the contract with the company is no longer valid.  If a company has a reason to suspect a retailer has breached their agreement and devalued their product, they are within their rights.

Many of these "retailers" are not retailers.  These co-ops are often being run by people or "businesses" that are disregarding the regulations and standards that other retailers must comply with.  This is even more important when dealing with imported products, but I will go into that a bit later.

Who does it hurt?


Buying a product at 40% off may not seem like it's hurting anyone, especially when the "retailer" is willing to sell them for that price.  But in reality, it doesn't stop there.  Saturating the market with under priced carriers hurts everyone.

Selling a low priced carrier does not stop with the person that purchased the product.  It has a trickle affect that really impacts the entire market.  Some people will buy the carrier and love it, so they will keep it for a year or two before selling it to someone else.  But some people will decide not to keep their carrier and sell it right away.  This swamps the market with cheap carriers.  Now the mom that was trying to sell a lightly used one at a loss can't even sell hers because there are brand new ones for sale at 40% off retail.  Retail sales drop for that carrier because no one wants to pay full price when there are plenty available or another co-op starting in a month or two.  Eventually the retailer clearances their carriers because they aren't selling and stop stocking that brand.  Now the parent company has lost their retailer and the orders they were placing.  Sure, they had the initial large sale, so they still made their original profit from the co-oped carriers, but now their product has lost value and people don't want to pay the full retail price.

Can you see how it affects everyone?  And most of those retail shops are small family owned businesses, many owned and run by work at home moms (WAHMs).  These business count on the products they buy having value in order to stay open.  Even a small loss can be enough to close a small business like that.

The damage done by a co-op is even worse if the products are knock offs.  Flooding the market with knock offs damages the consumer confidence in a product and can greatly impact sales.  Some of you may be aware of some of the damage done when a huge amount of fake Ergos were imported and sold in the US a while back.  Companies like Ergo, Beco, Moby, and other larger brands are especially at risk for being copied and reproduced.  These products are often made with inferior construction and materials and can often be unsafe.  Find out more about fake carriers on the BCIA website.

The companies that manufacture a product do so at a great cost.  It takes them time and significant investment to grow their product and they can only exist if their product has value.  People will happily pay the retail price when they know it is an investment that they can sell down the road.  But if the market is swamped with cheap carriers, no one will want to pay retail because that product is no longer worth that much.  That is why many companies, like Sakura Bloom, go through great lengths not to discount and undervalue their products.  It is out of loyalty to the brand they have created, their customers, and their retailers that they do their best to maintain the value of their products.

Maybe you're not worried about the value of your carrier and aren't concerned about the impact of co-ops on businesses, you just know you can't afford full price and so why not?  But devaluing these products actually impacts the entire babywearing industry.  When co-ops flood the market with cheap carriers, it makes is harder for existing companies to stay in business or grow and makes it even harder for new brands to emerge when the price of baby carriers have been undervalued to a point where they can't charge a fair price for their product.  Also, if stores can't sell the baby carriers they purchase, they will be forced to stop carrying them, which means people will have less access to baby carriers and babywearing in general.

I also want to add that this is not an issue that solely affects the babywearing industry.  The same can be seen with many other products, including cloth diapers, designer bags, strollers, etc.  In all cases, co-ops like these can undervalue and damage the product line involved and impacts the market as a whole.

Apples to oranges


So what's the difference between supporting a WAHM that runs legit retail business or one that runs a co-op without having an actual retail store?

When a retail store, whether on-line or brick and mortar, decides to carry a brand, it is an investment.  They have to carefully select what brands they choose to carry because stocking a product is costly.  Retail stores have overhead expenses to be in business, with brick and mortar significantly more than on-line shops.  Stocking their shelves with a products in a variety of colors and sizes for people to choose from is necessary to attract customers, but comes with a significant up front cost.  So a retail business must be careful when choosing what products to stock since something that is sitting on a shelf is costing the store money and keeping them from buying more products.

When a person or business runs a co-op like the ones we have been talking about, they have little to no upfront costs, no risk, is able to easily attract a large number of sales, and get paid in full before ordering.  People mistakenly believe this retailer is doing THEM a favor by offering such a great deal, but in actuality, these are quick, easy sales that allow them to turn a quick profit.  Purchasing from a co-op like this does not support small businesses or work at home moms, it is one person profiting at the expense of other small businesses and work at home moms.

What about pre-orders?


Like co-ops, pre-orders are done when a retailer allows customers to pre-order a product for a discounted rate.  These are especially common for international orders that have to be imported since the shipping cost is much higher.

Customers usually can not justify ordering directly from overseas since the shipping and import costs for one item makes it not cost effective.  A retailer will often open a pre-order when placing international orders.  This lets the customer to choose the exact product they wanted which allows the retailer make sure they import the products their customers actually want to purchase.  The cost for both the retailer and the customer to import a product is then shared, and retailers will often pass this discount on to the customers as a thank you for pre-ordering and waiting for their product to arrive.

So a pre-order is a discount on shipping and import costs and not the same as selling a product slightly above wholesale.  Both the retailer and the customer benefit from this arrangement and the overall market is not affected by these slight discounts.

International products


One of the biggest issues with co-ops applies only to international orders.  A retailer has certain responsibilities when they import a product to the US.  There are regulations that require a retailer take certain steps to make sure a product is safe and able to be tracked in the event of a product recall.  All baby carriers sold in the US must have product registration cards as well as tagging that identifies the model number, manufacture date and manufacture location.  International manufactures often are not in compliance with the US regulations, so it is the responsibility of the retailer importing these carriers to meet these requirement.  This is done at the cost of the retailer, while many co-ops are knowingly ignoring these regulations because they are not worried about the consequences.  Not being an actual store with overhead and inventory, there is little motivation for them to meet the regulations that apply to retailers.

What to look for


For the reasons listed above, it is important that a consumer is careful when they are purchasing from a co-op, especially to make sure that you are not getting an inferior imitation and that your manufacturer warranty will be valid.  But how do you tell the difference between a legitimate sale and an unauthorized co-op?  The simplest way... if it's too good to be true, then it probably is.

Unless a brand is changing to a new model or discontinuing a specific print, it is very unlikely that you will see sales of 20%, 30% or 40% off retail.  There are some exceptions of course, like Black Friday and Cyber Monday events.  But most of these sales are easily confirmed on the parent company's website and will be available at many, if not all, authorized retailers that carry their products.

One of the quickest ways to determine if this is an actual store or someone with a resellers license that is selling products under fraudulent circumstances is to look at the "store" itself.  Do they carry a stock?  Are there a variety of carriers available for purchase?  Do products ordered ship right away or do they fill all orders on a drop ship only basis?  Though many legit companies offer certain products through drop shipping, but it could be a warning sign if it is the only kind of products they carry.  If it looks like a store that you can actually buy from, then it is more likely to be an authorized sale.  But if it looks like a blog, facebook group or somewhere that only does "pre-orders", "co-ops" or drop shipping, it is less likely to be a legit run retailer.

You may occasionally find a store that has a product on clearance to make room for something else, but some companies like Sakura Bloom even discourage that kind of discounting, asking instead that carriers be sold back to the parent company.  Items available for clearance will also always be in-stock carriers and never a co-op or pre-order.

If you are concerned that a company may be running an illegitimate co-op, check the manufacturer's website and see if they are an authorized retailer.  If they do in fact show up, contact the company and ask if this is an authorized sale.  If it is, you can confidently buy knowing that the product you are buying is safe and will have value.

By any other name


Because BabyHawk and other companies are coming out against these unauthorized co-ops, many co-ops are quickly trying to re-name themselves.  Some are saying "co-op" is just the word they are using, but they are actually just "trying to offer carriers at the best price they can".  But if this price is against the wholesale agreement they signed with the company, they are running an unauthorized co-op no matter what they say or call it.

Making babywearing available to everyone


One of the things these people will sometimes say is that they don't care about money, they are just trying to make babywearing available to everyone.  While I believe some really are just in it for the quick profit, I do think there are some people out there that do have good intentions and do not realize the harm they are actually doing.  But offering people carriers far under market value does not help the babywearing industry, it hurts it.  It makes is harder for existing companies to stay in business or grow and makes it even harder for new brands to emerge when the price of baby carriers have been undervalued to a point where they can't charge a fair price when they enter the market.

Almost all of the people involved in the babywearing community are passionate about babywearing and want it to be available to everyone.  Many of the retailers and companies support local babywearing groups and work with individuals to help them find a carrier they can afford.  Sometimes this means a payment plan, sometimes it means buying clearance, returned, or even used carriers, sometimes this means helping a "customer" find a way to make their own.

Babywearing should be available to everyone, but that does not mean carriers should be sold for less than they are worth.  Jan Andrea of Sleeping Baby Productions is someone well known and respected in the community for her passion about babywearing and helping make affordable slings available to anyone.  Here's a great quote that was posted on the Sleeping Baby Productions Facebook page about this very topic:
"I love a bargain, and I know a lot of other people do, too, but... If you buy something from a co-op that's priced way below retail, you're not merely getting a bargain. You're also helping to undercut the small businesses who do follow pricing guidelines and abide by manufacturers' contracts... businesses that, in this field, are usually run by work from home moms just like me. Even "large" manufacturers in the babywearing world are moms -- there are no millionaires in this business (believe me!). I've heard of at least two co-op directors recently who fraudulently applied to be vendors, planning to resell at practically wholesale prices. Yes, absolutely, this appeals to the bargain-hunter in all of us... but I hope people will consider the fact that this is taking sales away from moms who are just trying to make a living promoting babywearing.

And before you say "but I can't afford X carrier at retail!", please remember that in most of the world, mothers make do with a piece of cloth... and that's really all you need. We get all worked up about the latest wrap woven from unicorn hair by fairies, but honestly? In the end, it's a piece of cloth. You don't *need* X carrier to babywear, and if you can't afford X carrier at its market value, it's really not the end of the world. You can still babywear. Or you can get X carrier second-hand, or do a payment plan with a legitimate vendor, or make your own. Just don't imagine that when you buy from a co-op vendor, there are no victims, because there are -- moms like me, who are doing their best to help other parents wear their babies, and make a halfway decent living doing so."
NuzzleMe Creations is another babywearing company that started the Feel Good Child Carrier Movement.  Companies participate in giveaways and fundraisers to help people.  Our store has even loaned out a carrier for a mama to use with her preemie until her baby is big enough to use the carrier she originally purchased.  There are lots of companies out there doing what they can to help people afford babywearing, but it must be done in a way that allows the babywearing industry to grow and flourish.

My hands aren't clean


Before I understood the impact of co-ops like this, I will admit that I participated in one before.  It wasn't for baby carriers, but it doesn't matter.  I also accidentally under priced a product when I first opened not realizing the costs involved in importing.  But we learn.  Our awareness changes.  It's what we do once we have that information that is important.  Now I do what I can to help people out without undercutting the products and brands I am privileged to carry. 

Thank you


Thank you for taking your time understand this topic more thoroughly.  I truly believe most of us want to continue to see the babywearing industry thrive and together we can keep it strong.


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